IT IS WHAT IT IS? Inspired by Jam Master Jay..

 It is what it is? inspired by Jam master Jay..
  ok, Really? That's just another foolish quick phrase that doesn't solve anything and if anything , tolerates or let actions or screw up as part of life. Folks thing just don't happen , well in regards to mother nature , earthquakes , rain storms, . floods , that's hard to predict or even stop or contain.
 But for relationships.. its simple.. Communication . and I don't mean just saying hi to one another or texting throughout the day or calling one another. Those things are important, but when the two of you get home have dinner , and just sit and talk about the usual.. work , the bull shit , the back stabbing. the rumors,, etc.. In other words venting , it helps build a relationship , it places one another in a same space scenario..It creates a bond ,,
 Now , cheating happens not for the physical. even how pleasurable that may be. but its the emotional bond , the friendship, ,more often than not cheating happens because one or both feel lonely , feel alienated ,feel unworthy by one another , so they seek pleasure or the ego boost from anyone that's willing. Like i said , it nice to have that great looking body or face, but the majority of infidelity is caused by partners feeling unwanted un loved , not appreciated. Guess what? it doesn't just happen , when you neglect anything , your car , the garden , your house or even your health , it all catches up to you AND YOU ULTIMATELY PAY FOR IT.. with high repair bills for your car , weed in your garden,., high blood pressure or obesity , and in cheating cases, lost love , .. So the old phrase " It is what is is " or Don't cry over spilled milk.. is non sense,. you are in control of your destiny or in this case your relationships.. Great Marriages happen by accident , it takes work every freaking day,, A little comfort , kind , and ,motivating words by your loved ones can be the difference between a great marriage or a bitter divorce. Like I said,, its the little things that count more than the big things,, Like smiles , hugs and kisses, massages , and simply talking.. The occasional flowers and candy and night out also keeps the love going. But many people neglect those things and just think about making money to pay for houses , cars , clothes , electronics.,. when in reality , the best thing you can do , is simply communicate and be there.. Cheating can be avoided if you feel a strong connection to someone and you think twice about whats important ,, a few minutes of mad passion with a gorgeous babe , or a long lasting real relationship with someone you love and want to share your life with. I know I had relationships with beautiful woman , but no connection , thank God,, I have an Angel that is not only beautiful on the outside , but very beautiful on the inside , and I love her dearly. Don't get me wrong , I like looking at beautiful women , any man that says he doesn't - is either blind , gay , or lying ,. or probably all 3 .. lol.. But anyways,.. if you want to avoid temptation stay away from opportunities like bars , clubs , , drinking and being by yourself.. Because if opportunity is there most men, especially if they have been drinking ,, all common sense , decency and what's thew right thing to do , goes out the door,, especially when the other head is thinking. you know what i mean.. ? Marriage , like life is what you make of it.. I suggest you all take the time to love that special someone , and do the little things like talk.. to one another , develop that bond, because once that bond or trust is broken, most of us,, have short memories and attention spans and our egos and pride take over instead of logic.. For me,, just me, If my special someone cheated , I will forgive it Gods will, but I could never forget and with that , the relationship is over.. I know many marriages have survived infidelity , but I'm a hopeless romantic and just the thought some one else touch my goods , makes me want to puke,, and kick someones ass.. So be true to those who love you and fa$WE#@@! the ones who betray you.. life is too short to deal with lowlife ,, knee sucking fools.. Until the next advice story .. Take Care THE SOURCE@ 2011