Can you be just friends ? Based on life events ..

Can you just be friends? 
  This is an age old question for the ages ! If you ask women most we say yea we can be friends with a male , But ask a guy all of them will say no ! Why because guys are hunters we have to flirt we have to make moves if the opportunity arises they will take advantagesj so to speak unless your gay , in that case women are not threatened by gay guys because they won’t engage .. Am I right girls ? But back to the question, well if the women sets the guy straight like before dating happens , it’s easy enough to set the boundaries and limits to that relationship or friendships , yes it hurts a guys ego but it’s better it happened before dating occurred so that the didn’t get too emotionally invested but then again guys get too attached to quickly , I know it just happened to me , and it hutt my pride my ego my manhood , in fact my initial reaction was fuck that .. but I realized it’s not her fault for being sweet and nice and thoughtful and honest , those things are hard to find in this day and age but being an alpha Male I reacted strongly well not in front of her but I lied to her when I stated I’m happy for you , that your working things out with the live of your life .. It my first insincere thing I stated to her , but she knew I wasn’t telling the truth right ? How can you be happy that your crush loves someone else and your heart broken , right ? Well anyways , after further thought and reflection I really admired the way she answered and responded to my announcement or professing my love .. it still hurt or still does but if anything she’s every a true friend, she didn’t try to embarrass me or make me feel less of a person in fact I thought her reply was honest , sincere and e to the point .. So how can anyone be upset with someone who is honest and true , I mean she showed my sincerity than I did ! I mean if anything she has every right to no longer call me a true or close friend but in life under stress we guys often try to hide our real feelings. It’s just the way we are wired .. Guys are suppposed to be the bedrock of stability . It’s how society views us guys . But anyways after thinking about the whole deal . I’m glad she didn’t take offense and instead suggested we be great friends , which after some thought . I believe at this time is better , because in life I realized having close connections or true friendships are hard to find and if you do find people you click with you better hold on to them . Like my best friend joe , since grade school we have been the best of friends , yes we had breaks in our friendship where we found other friends and interest but after so many years we can still pick up the phone and talk for hours about nothing . But that’s what a true friend is .. that person you can text or call and tell them things that are important and they will text or call you immediately, that’s a special bond that I found just recently and it feels great to know I have such a friend .. So when you find that friend that you can tell stories or jokes about nothing then you found that life long friend that’s what many people can dream about .. To be honest having a life long friend is more important than having a lover . Because in this day age .. lovers come and go so quickly , you don’t see long relationship anymore .. So the idea of a life long friend seems more appealing and satisfying . I know it’s hard to imagine opposite sex friendships just being that .. But true love doesn’t require sexual attraction, because when you love and respect and honor your friend by being kind and understanding that in itself is a higher love between people, I know what about affection and feelings , chemistry’s .eG. yea it’s a fine line .. no doubt but if both parties really value themselves and they’re friendship . Then like Tupac and jada , they were like brothers and sisters , like father and daughter like home boys and home girls from the hood . Back in day at my schools in south San Diego , the Mayans and Aztecs we had a brother hood and sister hood with one another we called our make
Friends home boys and our female friends homegirls and we looked out for one another., Those were special times and the few times I get to revisit my school mates it’s always fun to see the homeboys and homegirls ., its like we never left high school.. we laugh , we. Cry we talk about the old days but most of all we loved each other and still do , it’s kinda sad that a lot of times we get together. It’s because our classmates passed away . That’s never easy e but I realized thats life . I lost my mom when. I was young and it hurt , still does but she taught me to take care of those people ex that are true to you , be a good friend . Because it will bless you and you know she was right when you help someone in need is a great feeling .. When you do good deeds your blessing the people you helped and of course yourself .
    Now back to being a friend to an opposite sec . It’s a fine line like I said because guys are wired to take advantage so to speak because guys are  visual creatures .. but like in high school I had many home girls and girl friends . You just knew who you could hit on . And the homegirls at my school would kick your ass if you hit on them .. that’s for sure , but I know society today are doubters and haters and just don’t believe in that plautonic relationships.. I think the older crowd may think it’s more possible , but when your young and full of hormones being friends with the opposite sex is like mental torture , but as we get older .. we value the time left in our lives and value the rare connections you may find in life .. In my case , finding Someone that takes the time to cheer you up or even just smile and ask how are you just starts the work day right !
  So do I think , you can be just friends with the opposite sex , my answer is yes but you have to set boundaries and limits early and both parties have to remind each other of them . When I was younger , no way i could just be friends with someone I had a crush on right !? It’s easier to be good friends with a girl if you didn’t have a crush on them .. Right , back in the day we called our close female
Friend sis . I know it’s sounds silly but growing up in a filipino dominated community we had that vibe the connection . We looked out for one another.. that’s why we called each other home boys or home girls .. Barkadas .. we were called .. so to my friend that set me straight , I needed it haha ., I’m cool being part of your barkada and being your great friend .. I’m not sure of your ready to be friends with this guy but like I said finding a true connection without strings attached are a rare find and having true meaningful friendships are even more rare today .Most people are phony and two faced and only want friendship that helps them it’s an me , myself and I society. So finding
And keeping meaningful friendships are so rare .. To those that have managed such friendships I applaud you and for those thinking about it , just remember building anything in life takes time, effort and care to build that solid foundation ..To be honest most people just jump into relationships because of physical attraction, without building true love and maybe that’s why so many relationships fail these days they became lovers before being friends and when the lust
Is gone . Because they didn’t build a solid foundation, instead they are battling to keep
That relationship going and often times , one or the other Partner gets annoyed tired and fed up and when you start to name call and cause mental scars those memories so to speak get harder to heal
And eventually it wears you out .. Well based on my own life . Wounds will heal but sometimes the damage is already done and most often then not ends the relationships because of all
The harmful words and actions .. Be true to those that are true to you and be honest with yourself , because life is so fast and fleeing and you should cherish the good times you have with people and not take them for granted because sadly in life we often  have to lose something or someone special in order to realize you missed out on happiness! Until
My next blog take care and be kind to others !
The Source Productions2020

Corona Virus .. What the hell is happening ?

Corona Virus . What the hell is happeni? 
  We all have a responsibility to stay healthy and not get sick and if you do stay home and get better . I have to admit I took it as hysteria , but we all know the Govt doesn’t always divulge everything they know because they don’t want to scare the public , well folks the high death toll in China and now Italy is just scary . If really sad it takes a life threatening disease to brings the world together , But we also hear the stories of hate crimes against Asians or even people speaking a foreign language . Yes there are retards that will use that as an excuse to beat those they feel caused this issue and will it stop ? Hate is a strong emotion and the hysteria that has been created by the media hasn’t helped things . I know a lot of us are taking this threat for granted but it’s scary I’m recovering from the flu and the symptoms are similar to the flu , fever , headaches , runny nose , dry cough overload fatigue but the pain in the lungs and trouble breathing is what freaked me out I went to clinic and got the covid 19 test ,, that shit is painful sticking a damn long ass swab up your nose it nearly made me puke but it has to be done but getting a negative result is a blessing but it’s still creates anxiety in my mind and body .. when things like this happen you find out quickly who are your true friends and family , those that really care will be there for you .. I get it people are scared and it’s a disease that’s uncontrollable,, Who knows if people get it . Will they show symptoms ? or do people get it and not get sick , in other words carriers can not get sick but spreading it like wild fire that’s why in California where there is thousands of homeless that are probably infected and either scared to get help or they don’t know what to do ? That’s the hard reality is the homeless population 
Will be hit hard because they live near each other and they’re everywhere ,!Its easy to say oh well but if they get it then California has a breeding ground of disease that will kill thousands ,, Whats scary there is no medicine or cure so if you get it your fucked if you under the high risk groups .. heart issues, lung issues , diabetes, etc .. that’s what’s scary is that a lot of people’s er will die from the disease ,, But we have too many people who don’t care about the social distancing or staying home ,, This problem is everyone’s not just chins or Italy or California problem its world wide deal we all have to do our part to shut this virus down , But the assholes that calling it the Asian flu or Kung flu and starting hate crimes to all Asians is not fair . There’s stories Asians being attacked because we speak our native tongue mistake an Asian foreign language as Chinese .. Yup . I’m not saying all Asians prepare yourself but , as the disease lingers on ,, Dumb asses will promote their own hatred and agendas against Asians .. it’s like the Japanese during world war 2 and Arab looking people during the Middle East conflicts , it’s just the sad fact in America , we have tons of idiots that use their fear and stupidity to preach their hatred . Am I scared about what’s happening , of course we have racist groups -and lots of people that just want to hate ..Whst the hell is happenig in America we are in war against an invisible enemy and we have to look out for one another because we are humans for God sake , but I see us in dangerous times , because people are scared of the unknown , a and when people are under adversity , we are gonna see your true character ! I realize that now words are words but action speaks louder then what a person says or texts you! We are under the most stress right now so for those that are  True to you your lucky and for the rest of us . We need to take care of one another snd God bless the medical field who are on the front lines fighting this dangerous virus ,, What the hell is happening in America ,, I see love , caring sharing but I also
See hatred and confusion and frustration that’s making people say or do things that represents hate ! I’m hoping we all protect ourselves and help those that need it and I’m giving out health care professionals my utmost respect ! We need to take care of ourselves , because without one another we are doomed ! If our health care pros all get sick , it’s over whose gonna take care of us !? Wake up every one ..
TheSource Ptoductiond @2020

What Men want in a relationship ? Inspired by life !

What men want in a relationship? 
   Ok same thing , blog over hahs , no but for real men are simple that’s why women know how to play us ! We , men think we rule them but women know feed a mans ego and game over ! Men like to talk among guys we like to brag about how many women we had or going to have . Men are dogs but it’s the way we are wired .If men don’t chase and seal the deal the population would not increase .. Some of us have huge appetites while others are good at flirting and such. All men like it when women smile or compliment their looks or car , jewels etc .Men are like little boys when a girl feeds their ego ,. Men are practical when it comes to fixing things or repairing objects but we get emotional when you say you look good . Men love attention , for average looking girls simply compliment a guy and watch how he acts after that . Yea men are simple .. We want to feel like a king and women who feed that have a man hooked . 
  For men to pursue a relationship they have to click with that person . What does that mean ? Can you talk about anything do you feel comfortable sharing ideas or advice . I know what about looks and body shape , yea that’s true but some men like myself don’t want to compete with a shapely women and I’m a bodybuilder and that’s weird but I’m that guy that likes to be the one that has a great body , I’m ok with a skinny girl or non shapely , but that’s me ! My ego is huge ! 
   But a man loves a women that is strong minded and knows what they want it’s a turn on to see
A women that is ambitious and goal oriented .Men like being the knight in shining armor but it’s very sexy when a women doesn’t cry at everything and has value , a women who has a strong ego and displays it .. Thatx a big plus to most men ! Men love challenges that whywe work on cars or guns its taking things a part and Seeing how it works..Same with men if you make it easy for men they will lose respect .. simple make that dude work for it .. If a man wants a booty call they will make that clear fast . But if a man is patient chasingwitb  you they see you as a partner .. Men know there’s tons of women at the bars , clubs that want that kind of action. But men know finding that woman that is strong minded and know what they want is a treasure . Men like their freedom if you want that guy to be happy let him enjoy his hobbies . Especially when men are older they are ok when women don’t demand too much from a man ! Don’t be a needy girl because guys hate   that ! Men like watching their sports or playing video games or working out or working on their car it’s a guy thing we love working with your hands it’s the way we are wired . When a women knows how a guy is wired they let him do his thing , you own him regardless if your beautiful or what men are easy and we know it ,, If anything be real and authentic don’t be something that your not because when they realize your not
You may find that person gone .. yup it may take weeks months or years but when anyone finds out the real you .. it can disheartening ., imagine being  with that person only
To realize they were fakes and just pretending . It happens all the
Time especially the courting chasing phase ,, We show the good sides during that phase I hope it’s real because when people find out it’s fake that’s the most heartbreaking thing in life and it hurts like a son of a bitch that’s why it’s better to show yourself all of you .. that way the person who love and care about isn’t surprised or heart broken  years later ,, just saying when I was younger I used try to be what the girl wanted but you can only act for so long , Just be real and authentic and most of care about peoples feelings ,, You capture a women’s heart don’t play with them because if you do that’s a vengeance no one wants ! Until my nest blog Be happy and thanks for reading my blogs ! 

The SourceProductiond @2020

What women want in a relationship? Based on life experiences..

What woman want in a relationship? 
  There’s no big magical system to a women heart ! Women are emotional creatures they love to feel they are spontaneous . While men are more practical in their thinking being  emotional is not a manly
Thing unless it’s watching sports or doing sports !
    Now my tips .. women like to feel special.. they like it when their partner ask how are you ? How’was your day or weekend ? It shows you care about their well being ! Yup it’s the little things that women like , did my partner appreciate what I do ? Do they show true interest in what your doing or are doing ? Women love kindness , the old saying kill them with kindness .. Most men don’t do that anymore ..But being sweet is a lost art , Men should realize women are still women they don’t or want to one of the guys ,, Being kind and sweet goes a long way in building a relationship.. Always show appreciation, never take anyone for granted . When you show appreciation it’s adding points in your favor .. So practice it and do it ! I know some guys are saying that shit sounds wimpy , perhaps but based on my life experience.. women like to feel special like a queen , So it’s good to Be kind and patient , yes I know some women like to ramble , let them it’s their way of venting ,,that’s what makes them women. 
  Women wants a partner they can rely on under the stresses of life they want that partner to be strong and stable and just being there is very important to them . Life will always have trials and tribulations . They want someone that’s gonna be there support them . They want someone they can rely on .. But being stable minded will gain points with them . It’s easy to be happy and cheerful when things are going well but to have someone there when there’s issues at work or stresses from life ..
   When a women feels loved the open up their hearts and feelings which to them is very important to them . They want someone to feel their pain or atleast recognize it .. if  someone is I tune with their partners feelings they have a relationship worth keeping , the problem with people they only think about themselves and their own selfish needs .. So when you think about yourself it’s hard to think about your partner .. 
  Women want to feel safe , not just physically but emotionally, if you care enough not to hurt their feelings that’s the safety factor they want and desire ! It’s really simple steps that build a bond and a bank of good deeds that make relationship work ! Feeling safe also means they can tell you personal things and you take their feelings into account .. Now this is something that has to happen throughout the relationship.. not just the courting phase .. That’s what hurts relationships people forget to be trusting loving respectful and compassionate . These qualities is what women want ! 
   Being aware of their inner self is important to women they want their partner to feel their emotional state if you can’t recognize something is wrong then they won’t open up to you and the relationship can’t grow ..
   Women like to nurture or be motherly ,!They want to help their partner get through tough times . I don’t care how macho you are or independent you are sadness or depression hits everyone..  A women wants to help you get through that sadness phase of your life ,,
   Appreciate them , let them know you appreciate what they do , whether it’s something they did for you will do .. appreciation and thoughtfulness is what women cherish because people take things for granted ..
  Relationships just don’t happen it takes work and you have to care about your partner and of course care about yourself by looking good and mentally and emotionally be strong and open to bettering oneself . A women want someone that has courage under stress and is not afraid to look bad . It’s that authentic and being yourself that women want , When a women can be themselves under any situation is when a true relationship thrives ,,women as they get older they realize finding that partner to grow with is winding down and if they find that someone they will try to their best to hold on to that special someone..Based on my life experiences these tips will help you build and sustain a great relationship .!But always remember nothing worth having takes time to nurture and build .. I hope this helps but you have to apply these tips and practice them in order to have a great relationship ..!Its not easy but if you have a wonderful relationship your gonna have happiness in life and aren’t we all searching for that happiness that makes life fulfilling! Until my next blog take care and be happy !
TheSourceProduction @ 2020

True friends .inspired by life events

True Friends , Inspired by life events ..
Well guys and gals another blog about life events .. ok first off my definition of a true friend is simple ..True friend accepts you for what you exhausting are ! For example if your
Moody or have a hard ass attitude , it’s ok it what you are .. like for myself I’m a friendly , flirty eye guy that makes people smile ,, But when I get pissed off  I’m the biggest meanest ass hole . When I Get into a fight physical or verbal, it can be brutal . It’s just the way I am , I fight to win no matter the cost..The problem with that you hurt people physically mentally and emotionally . I have no issues attracting friendship from males or females , my issue is keeping friends ,My best friend since grade  school tells me your exhausting , and overly dramatic and too attention seeking .. Maybe that’s why I don’t have many close friends ,, Because it takes patience , understanding and stamina to be my friend . But if I’m truly your friend you have a protective caring person with a lot of passion for life . But I get very upset when betrayed ., like if you say your a friend it’s not cool to say spread rumors about my character or what !! I mean just because I act a certain way you have to say he’s gay and he’s other friends are gay ,, Or when you think your cool and then they accuse you of wrongdoing and what sucks all companies including the military they believe the women .!Thats why men are on edge these days if your too friendly , sexual harassment charge and if you don’t they say he’s gay ,, What the fuck is a guy or girl to do ? That’s not a true friend if you have issue With someone at work or school you go up to them and tell them , that’s what a true friends do , not report them or accuse them or spread gossip . That is betrayal .. I mean I understand we are emotional beings , we get upset we get depressed we get emotional but true friends talk it out .. True friends enjoy through good times and bad because we all know life is a roller coaster you have your ups and downs ..it’s the true friend that takes the time to be there when you need them and gives you the space to deal with things or let you enjoy your hobbies without feeling I need to be with them all the time ! True friends are authentic  they are not phony with one another ..In other words they show you who they really are .. and accept you for that .. When you get to know someone . About their beliefs or ideas mesh with you ,, that’s how your acquaintance becomes a friend and leads to true friend when your comfortable to be yourself and be who your really are ..That’s when you have a true friend and when a friend does something to hurt you , you talk it out . But it seems in today’s world people want to ruin you or hurt you because you assumed things about them .. One thing I learned in life is you don’t play with peoples emotions don’t say shit unless you Mean it , Unless your joking and playing along but when you say things like I’m your friend in time of need and because I’m busy you suddenly take my kindness and thought as bull shit , is no way to be .. One thing is clear with true friends they back you up no matter what ! They protect you and make you look in the best light ! But when a so called friend betrays you , its hard to forgive I know by experience it’s hard to forgive someone it may never come so be careful with your friends , just like life friends are fragile you can go from love to hate in a moment and the thing with emotional damage it’s hard to heal because it’s like a scar , sure it heals but it can reopen and often times hurts more because of  the history of pain . Life is too short to feel guilty or ashamed ,, You have to move on and when someone betrays you and accuses you of things that are not true .. chances are that friendship is over and affects both parties in their future friendships or relationships ,,it screws with you because your less trustful with people your less loving , it sucks because that person your with didn’t hurt you but we often punish those that are close to us .. But those true friends understands your pain and helps you get through life .Life is stressful
Enough not to have phony inauthentic friends that use you for their own needs . I know everyone using people for something but when someone is needy and impatient , selfish user that’s the pain that’s hard to forgive ,, True friends builds bonds builds love by doing things for them its like money in the bank the more good deeds you do ,, your building a friendship that is strong .. and when the tough times come you have the good deeds built in your mind .. The mind controls everything so when a guy or girl builds these good deeds you my friend have the bonds of true friendship ,,true  friend's do things became they want to and not worried about pay back or keep tallies , true friends are enjoying the moment because life is full of moments when you have great moments with a friend , you want more moments .. Finding true friends are really a treasure and to my true friends I love you and I’m blessed when I need my true friends they are there because they want to ! Like I tell my true friends Be true to those that are true to You ‘ Until my next blog enjoy everyday’
The Source Productions@2020
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