Thursday thoughts- Be yourself ! Based on life experiences..

Thursday Thoughts - Be yourself.. Based on life experiences..
   First of all I want to thank you for taking time in your busy life to read my blogs.
Now to my lessons learned.  Based on my own life experiences, of course everyone has their own points of view , but based on how I have lived close to 50 years.. I found that..
   No matter what, You have to be who you are. What do you mean? Its like this.. I know alot of us want to impress people with our knowledge and experiences,, But believe me, you cant know everything or experience everything.. you can't but we all see folks,?, that seem to know everything, experienced everything and have alot to say about it.. No not me. ? Ok.. enough of that..!! But what I',m saying is, what turns people off.?  are fakes, phonies,, wanna be's,, etc.. Explain, ok.lets say you a avid bike rider and someone starts talking about biking,, but is actually talking about nothing,, and really knows nothing about biking or such.. Doesn't that turn you off>?  To me , it does,, because, why do it? Attention seeking , insecure,. or just a plain ass attention grabber.. Probably all applies to them.. ?!?
 But what I'm trying to say , is be you,,! and don't try to fake others by trying to be something your not,, ? I mean.. It might be embarrassing? ... , but it also can get you killed or hurt,, Explain...
  Like your with surfers, and you tell them your a bad ass surfer and you go out there even though , first .... your not a great swimmer and you rarely if ever surfed.?  In other words you can get hurt or killed by trying to be something or not,, That can apply to fighting,, and like I said that can get you hurt or killed.. !!
 In essence,, without wasting too much time on every ones part, is simple..
What I  do !!  
 1) Be your self,, wear the clothes you like , not what the crowd thinks its cool.
2) Talk the way you naturally speak.. if you use slang. that's ok.if your laid back.. that's ok.. but be yourself,, I know .../? What about professional settings..., well you can still use professional language and still be laid back? I say yes,, I would say I speak laid back California, but I can turn on the professional military like talk,, if that's possible? But anyways, just be yourself and don't try to be  something your not,, In the short or Long run.. people will respect you better.
3) Be truthful and honest with people.. because if you lie and deceive people, they will figure you out, like you say I have been somewhere and talk about it and then you talk about it again, and its a totally different story,, believe me , there are people that remember everything you say,,, So if your telling the truth,, details will be similar.. 
4) Lastly, Being yourself also means, being consistent with your views , political, religious and sports wise,, once again,, people most,, don't like band wagon, folks, or attention grabbing people who root or support things just to get a rise our of people,, I mean we all have strong beliefs,, on things, but be true to those beliefs,, Don't just do things to rile people up.. In the long run.. People will respect you better , than a person , who is like a butterfly.. going from flower to flower,, it might seem cool at first, but a social butterfly person, gets old fast and breaks up bonds than create ones.. 

  Ok.. I hope this has opened up your minds about life, and I hope it instills experiences that you may have had with fakes, social butterfly's and controversial people.. In the end, they will suffer , because they don't have a consistent mind set. I know its good to have a open mind at times, ?/But I also say open mind , means a empty one that doesn't want to takes sides or don't have true feelings about anyone or anythings,, A air head, a meat head,  etc.. To me.. Its hard for me to believe no one has opinions about things,, ?/ Because you cant possibly like everything in life or you haven't had a bad experience with people ,places or food.. We all have, and that's what forms our opinions and perceptions on things,, Good or bad.. Everyone.. experiences life and based how we responded ,forms a opinion about that subject.. I know alot of people say, if it doesn't affect me,??  I don't need to be concerned with it,, Its how alot of people think,, But think again, that drunk driver or texter that doesn't pay attention and hits and kills you,, your gonna think, maybe I should of reported them or what.. Every time the cops or law enforcement jails a drunk driver , tickets a texter. I'm good with that because I we don't need careless fools out there, we have enough of them out there... !!
  Last thoughts. Just be yourself and don't be influenced by trends and styles. I know when your young.!! But back in the day , I was a trend setter than a trend follower, I was the bar , instead of setting the bar, in other words, I was different!!  , I was unique, sure some kids made fun or said things,, and i would talk trash back, or if it has too, Kick their ass on school breaks, lunch or after school. In other words. yesterday or even today..You don't have to ask me twice to fight,, in fact even if U think something is going down.. I'm on you,, that's how I was when I was young and That's how I am, now,, Nothing works better in the street , than the unexpected attack or defense and striking hard and fast.. It can saves one life.. Its a mindset ..I  have and has carried me through 50 years and counting.. I know should I calm down or relax. I say// " When I die , that's when I can rest in peace" For now , I want to be as aggressive and out spoken on things that are important to me.  I found people may not like what you feel about alot of things..., but at least they know where you stand? People that are too quiet , too nice , and you have no clue who they are.. ?/Those are the ones you need to be careful and lookout for,,!!Because you hear and see the news" Oh, he or she was a quiet and nice guy,, ?" Really, just waving to neighbors and smiling , but not interacting with them, then people don't really know you.. I'm not saying  you need to talk to all your neighbors , but get to know a few if possible.. I know alot if not  all my neighbors, but I know alot of them. I say hello,! hows everything,? , especially when i"m in the yard  detailing black beauty... Ok.. enough said on the topic.. ! Have a great day and lesson is Be yourself, and be passionate about what you engage in.. For me,,, I'm a passionate person, if I'm not totally passionate about something , I'm not in,, but there are exceptions,, like shopping with the wife, attending ballet dance shows,, I have to please the better half at times,, because a happy wife is a happy wife,, I know.. Its better to sacrifice a little to gain alot. Because I have plenty of time to do what I enjoy , like reading , writing, researching and of course working out and driving around black beauty.. Its the little things in life I love and I try to do them the best I can.. Have a great day and be true to oneself.. that way..How can people understand you , if you don't understand what you stand for? Just a closing thought to ponder.. Until my next blog,, Take care and have a great day and week!
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