Can you be just friends ? Based on life events ..

Can you just be friends? 
  This is an age old question for the ages ! If you ask women most we say yea we can be friends with a male , But ask a guy all of them will say no ! Why because guys are hunters we have to flirt we have to make moves if the opportunity arises they will take advantagesj so to speak unless your gay , in that case women are not threatened by gay guys because they won’t engage .. Am I right girls ? But back to the question, well if the women sets the guy straight like before dating happens , it’s easy enough to set the boundaries and limits to that relationship or friendships , yes it hurts a guys ego but it’s better it happened before dating occurred so that the didn’t get too emotionally invested but then again guys get too attached to quickly , I know it just happened to me , and it hutt my pride my ego my manhood , in fact my initial reaction was fuck that .. but I realized it’s not her fault for being sweet and nice and thoughtful and honest , those things are hard to find in this day and age but being an alpha Male I reacted strongly well not in front of her but I lied to her when I stated I’m happy for you , that your working things out with the live of your life .. It my first insincere thing I stated to her , but she knew I wasn’t telling the truth right ? How can you be happy that your crush loves someone else and your heart broken , right ? Well anyways , after further thought and reflection I really admired the way she answered and responded to my announcement or professing my love .. it still hurt or still does but if anything she’s every a true friend, she didn’t try to embarrass me or make me feel less of a person in fact I thought her reply was honest , sincere and e to the point .. So how can anyone be upset with someone who is honest and true , I mean she showed my sincerity than I did ! I mean if anything she has every right to no longer call me a true or close friend but in life under stress we guys often try to hide our real feelings. It’s just the way we are wired .. Guys are suppposed to be the bedrock of stability . It’s how society views us guys . But anyways after thinking about the whole deal . I’m glad she didn’t take offense and instead suggested we be great friends , which after some thought . I believe at this time is better , because in life I realized having close connections or true friendships are hard to find and if you do find people you click with you better hold on to them . Like my best friend joe , since grade school we have been the best of friends , yes we had breaks in our friendship where we found other friends and interest but after so many years we can still pick up the phone and talk for hours about nothing . But that’s what a true friend is .. that person you can text or call and tell them things that are important and they will text or call you immediately, that’s a special bond that I found just recently and it feels great to know I have such a friend .. So when you find that friend that you can tell stories or jokes about nothing then you found that life long friend that’s what many people can dream about .. To be honest having a life long friend is more important than having a lover . Because in this day age .. lovers come and go so quickly , you don’t see long relationship anymore .. So the idea of a life long friend seems more appealing and satisfying . I know it’s hard to imagine opposite sex friendships just being that .. But true love doesn’t require sexual attraction, because when you love and respect and honor your friend by being kind and understanding that in itself is a higher love between people, I know what about affection and feelings , chemistry’s .eG. yea it’s a fine line .. no doubt but if both parties really value themselves and they’re friendship . Then like Tupac and jada , they were like brothers and sisters , like father and daughter like home boys and home girls from the hood . Back in day at my schools in south San Diego , the Mayans and Aztecs we had a brother hood and sister hood with one another we called our make
Friends home boys and our female friends homegirls and we looked out for one another., Those were special times and the few times I get to revisit my school mates it’s always fun to see the homeboys and homegirls ., its like we never left high school.. we laugh , we. Cry we talk about the old days but most of all we loved each other and still do , it’s kinda sad that a lot of times we get together. It’s because our classmates passed away . That’s never easy e but I realized thats life . I lost my mom when. I was young and it hurt , still does but she taught me to take care of those people ex that are true to you , be a good friend . Because it will bless you and you know she was right when you help someone in need is a great feeling .. When you do good deeds your blessing the people you helped and of course yourself .
    Now back to being a friend to an opposite sec . It’s a fine line like I said because guys are wired to take advantage so to speak because guys are  visual creatures .. but like in high school I had many home girls and girl friends . You just knew who you could hit on . And the homegirls at my school would kick your ass if you hit on them .. that’s for sure , but I know society today are doubters and haters and just don’t believe in that plautonic relationships.. I think the older crowd may think it’s more possible , but when your young and full of hormones being friends with the opposite sex is like mental torture , but as we get older .. we value the time left in our lives and value the rare connections you may find in life .. In my case , finding Someone that takes the time to cheer you up or even just smile and ask how are you just starts the work day right !
  So do I think , you can be just friends with the opposite sex , my answer is yes but you have to set boundaries and limits early and both parties have to remind each other of them . When I was younger , no way i could just be friends with someone I had a crush on right !? It’s easier to be good friends with a girl if you didn’t have a crush on them .. Right , back in the day we called our close female
Friend sis . I know it’s sounds silly but growing up in a filipino dominated community we had that vibe the connection . We looked out for one another.. that’s why we called each other home boys or home girls .. Barkadas .. we were called .. so to my friend that set me straight , I needed it haha ., I’m cool being part of your barkada and being your great friend .. I’m not sure of your ready to be friends with this guy but like I said finding a true connection without strings attached are a rare find and having true meaningful friendships are even more rare today .Most people are phony and two faced and only want friendship that helps them it’s an me , myself and I society. So finding
And keeping meaningful friendships are so rare .. To those that have managed such friendships I applaud you and for those thinking about it , just remember building anything in life takes time, effort and care to build that solid foundation ..To be honest most people just jump into relationships because of physical attraction, without building true love and maybe that’s why so many relationships fail these days they became lovers before being friends and when the lust
Is gone . Because they didn’t build a solid foundation, instead they are battling to keep
That relationship going and often times , one or the other Partner gets annoyed tired and fed up and when you start to name call and cause mental scars those memories so to speak get harder to heal
And eventually it wears you out .. Well based on my own life . Wounds will heal but sometimes the damage is already done and most often then not ends the relationships because of all
The harmful words and actions .. Be true to those that are true to you and be honest with yourself , because life is so fast and fleeing and you should cherish the good times you have with people and not take them for granted because sadly in life we often  have to lose something or someone special in order to realize you missed out on happiness! Until
My next blog take care and be kind to others !
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