My Secrets for a Happy Relationship>Inspired by MONA..

My Secrets for a Happy Relationships.- Inspired by Mona..
      My secrets for a happy relationship is quite simple.. You have to feel communicate , whatever that is.. ? Once communication is broken,, Its line a cable or phone line.. Once its broken,. You don't get a clear signal or view.. MISUNDERSTANDING'S happen because one person thinks one thing and the other another.. How I do I know because once upon a time I was a young and dumb dude that thought I knew everything. But it wasn't true, I was a good laconic guy that had the charming smile , the engaging chatter and of course sense of humor,, Those qualities certainly open the doors for relationships. But what happens next? Is that what you used to get the girl or boy.. ? WE tend to take things for granted. Advice, Don't do that. Because Love is like a garden,. If you tend to it every day and take care of issue before they get of  hand. You have a great yard and relationship.. Nothing in life or love just happens.. Everyday we all need reassurance , we all need Love, What we did yesterday is appreciated , but often times its forgotten. Its about what have you done for me lately.. Women or men are the same, We want to feel the love , not read it or say it,. We are feeling peoples, the couples that feel it the love , are the ones that last.. I'm thankful that even though the long separations because of military deployments, those times when I called or what I made sure she felt my love? How. Simple , just share your feelings and reassure her or him.. Its what we all want. I don't care how cocky or confident you ,, because I'm that, I still have those feelings of.. I want appreciation and love and respect,.. We all want to wanted and needed in a relationship.. When you stop reassuring one another and instead do destructive things like binge drinking and disregardful posts on fb,, That's when you lost respect and concern for that person.. IN MY opinion when that happens it might be too late.. Yea, I know I'm sorry and I wont do it again. But we all heard that and done that. Words ans actions hurt more than a slap in the face,.. and the intention of those words causing more harm than any physical abuse.. and Though we may forgive that person.. But the anger or issue is lingering in the back of people's heads,and once you continue to fill up that pail.. as my bestie would call it. One more argument or issue could cause that pail to tip and once that happens. It may be too late to recover .. The human mind and heart are complicated and  simple.. But so many couples ruin thins by being rude , and vengeful.. Today's couple's have to deal with so many issues, the social networks, the perceptions and images of society.. In today's world .. people are more sensitive to how they are being portrayed. The days of making fun and beating up one another and then be best friends, are long gone,, and Now its all about perception and image. If you post stories about drinking , and bad feelings about family and friends then people think your a unhappy and disruptive force that if I was an employer would not consider you for employment. If you are constantly posting things , just for the mere fact you want attention, Then I would say your a attention seeker and not a team player,, Yes, I would  not hire that person.. Now if there is a person that post about advice , and past experiences and perceptions about life,. I would hire that person, because they have a grasp about life, a maturity and a gift to help his family and friends. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but I do observe things and realize we all need reminder in life., That's why we feed off each others post, I enjoy the daily spiritual postings or the funny acts at work postings or My ride rules posts or the football or sports vents,, its keeps us going. We need reminder's and support from one another. But most of all Its the sense of humor postings that make me feel the best. Because those people that can laugh at themselves and others , and share their love with the world, Like home improvement stories , or the kids doing well in sports or making that big sale or winning that big case.. I enjoy all that and The love and respect we have for one another is the key to our relationship as fb friends.. I know for many of you I haven't seen you since jr high , high school , college or Navy days, But it doesn't matter , the bind or connection we established were strong enough to survives the years , months weeks we have been apart, and when we do make contact whether through posts or comments ,, I can feel the connection, If we really had a bond , it will stay forever.. if the bond was established because of forced necessity or convenience , then those relationships will fail.. True relationship last the test of time and their is unconditonal love.. I found that having jealous , envious or hateful thoughts in a relationship or friendship are disruptive and emotional and psychologically draining, so that's why I found out early in life , Its not worth feeling that way.. If I want something I make plans and start making actions. That way I have a desire an inspiration to attain to,.. My Career , my marriage , my parenting ,, has been my driving force , and all other thoughts of I wish I had that or I regret I didn't do this,. Why think that way, It doesn't help you or the relationship or friendship your trying to keep.
 Lastly , I just want to say that A sense of humor will help any relationship build bonds and break the chains of anger or what? IN addition you need to communicate what your feeling , what you like or don't like or what, if that person ignores or simply doesn't care about your feelings or concerns, Than why bother? That's one thing I don't do is compromise or settle for less, I don't stay in a relationship or friendship , Just because I don't want to be lonely,, I stay in because I have true feelings and love,. if that's nit the case ? Why stay and why torture or demean yourself by betraying your own emotions and psyche.. In life , nothing is guaranteed , but One thing I make sure every day I wake up is that I make sure my wife and kids know I love them , because I tell them. They may seem like I;m being too corny or what , but You never know if that .. your loved ones may not see you.. again, because we have DRUNK DRIVERS , or Serial killers , or jealous rages from family and friends., Or Natural disasters,, In other words. Shit Happens .. then you die.. !! I live everyday likes it Saturday night, Enjoy my friends and keep those bonds with family and friends strong by sharing funny stories or jokes and sharing your true feelings, but most of all just be there for them.. Alot of times, we all just want someone to listen.. not to solve or advise, just let us vent , cry or bitch about life or what.. My secret is simple. Just be there , in happy and especially bad times.. TAKE CARE UNTIL MY NEXT BLOG..
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