Real Friends . Inspired by Theresa Croft.com

Real Friends , Inspired by theresacroft.com 
   Hi everyone I hope everyone is dealing with the stay home order it’s been a tough road for many of us .. Well I know a lot of us are cooking and baking more than normal and doing more yard work then usual.. 
   Ok to my blog If real friends don’t text you back , you don’t write them off ! Because you are so secure in your friendship with them that you know this is simply a cue to pray for them . Theresacroft.vom
   I saw this on a YouTube video and it really caught my attention . Beasts it’s so true if you have a real friend you don’t need immediate validation from them and your not so insecure that your going to bash them or abandon them because of your selfish needs and wants over your friends needs or wants a real friend doesn’t make demand or expect immediate response or require a answer like you are summoned them for something . Am I right !’ I think whrn we become friends or label someone as such we create a pedestal that’s hard to maintain .!!  I feel like we all expect too much from our friends .!!  Like if you need something and they can’t deliver , we get unrealistic about what a friend should do or don't do!! 
      We all live busy lives and we all lt are dong things everyday and at times we can’t be there for our friends because we are busy ! It’s just the facts of life , but often times we fail to realize that we can only help if possible , but we often feel betrayed or used by our friends, Guess what ? We all use our family our friends fur whatever , we shouldn’t get hung up on that phrase , because we all use one another for emotional support , for validation purposes , for rides or helping you do things . We shouldn’t think that we are being mistreated or used  in a friendship , Friendship takes work and effort especially if you want to be friends for life .. !! But a real friend doesn’t get upset when ignored or when they get ghosted so to speak .!!  A real friend takes things in stride and doesn’t overthink things  11 , I’m guilty of that but the friends I have taught me to be more patient and sensitive to their needs . Not every likes to text or talk all the time especially when they are not feeling well or dealing with life’s struggles . A real friend is sensitive , is respectful and is caring enough to deal with a friend that needs space and time !! .. but we are only human we let our emotions and our selfish needs and wants get in the way of keeping a friendship.!  It’s tough to be a friend . !! That’s why we don’t have many true friends in life .!!  The true friends accept one another no matter what our faults and weaknesses we have they just accept us , because it’s just human nature we gonna fuck up things . We are going to say something stupid , something offensive , something rude but we just laugh it off or let it go as one of my dear friend once told me .!!  I know sometimes the ones that hurt us the most are the ones we hold dear to our hearts .. Thats why some people don’t want to get too close to friends .. It hurts to open ones heart to people , some of us are ok to expose our hearts to people , we learned how to let things go and just go on because life is so fast .. I have no time for grudges or hatred for anyone , I just want to be happy and be a good friend ,, 
  A true friend based on my life’s experiences are the ones that praise one another and is firm in the commitment of friendship they don’t bash a friend they don’t gossip they protect their friend even when their wrong .. A true friend may set up boundaries but never walls , true friends don’t get easily offended or hurt even if the friend is too embarrassed or don’t want to share what’s going on in their lives . A true friend is honest and is ok giving their friend space to deal with their issues in their life ..
 Lastly a true friend makes a difference in each other’s lives and are secure with their identity and their friendship.. a true friendship unites and brings togetherness in understanding each other’s wants and needs . A true friend feels like you’ve known them forever , it’s hard to explain in words , when you find a connection with a true friend.. you just feel it . And no long separation can change that ,, I know I have a best friend that at times we talk all the time and then can go months with no contact but once I talk to them it’s like we never missed a beat ,,yea I feel blessed I have a few friends like that , my true friend are my treasures because I can share my life with them. That’s why if you found a friend you connect with ,  Cherish then and don’t write them off , give them the space and time to desk with their life so when they reconnect you can be happy and enjoying the moment ,, May everyone have a good day or night and take care of yourself and be a true friend by just relaxing and not getting offended when friends ignore you .. Because you don’t know what’s going on in Their heart and minds ., Let them be .. True friends .. stay your friend no matter what has gone on .. 
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